‘’Addiction, if you come to think about it - is a relationship - and like any toxic relationship, there eventually has to come a time - it’s a good idea to break up. The healthy and respectful thing to do, considering you both have history? Sit down, be honest with one another, and come to a mutual understanding before you separate on good terms.’’
Understanding all that Funny Business.
Cocaine is one hell of a drug.
One massive line up each nostril, whack on some porn - lads feel like their in “heaven.”
“Living the dream.”
The Reality?
Funny business is far from a funny.
Addiction is serious.
What started as harmless fun years ago…
is still something you can’t help yourself with.
Putting yourself through hell…
The problem.
Most lads think they “have a cocaine problem.”
And although that’s true, what they actually have is far more complicated.
Underneath the surface.
What’s really going on?
You love it.
You love the escape.
You love the rush.
You love all that funny business you get up too.
That’s the truth you need to stop avoiding.
That’s the truth you need to admit.
And that’s why you better respect it.
Because you’re whole relationship with it, is out of hand!
What That Looks Like
You know you can’t live this way - yet still do.
You are determined to stop, but can’t help yourself.
You can talk sense after the fact, but in the moment, lose sense of self.
You ignore consequences even though you know better.
Trouble delaying gratification.
Preference for quick fixes & instant gratification.
Prioritising convenience.
No interest in long-term thinking.
You do your own head in, cause you constantly let yourself down
And worst of all - you’re a proud man but don’t act like it.
The Result?
You're having an existential crisis .
What To Do?
Practically, you need stability and peace of mind.
It’s therefore advised that you seek support and start making time for yourself. Once a week, for example, for one hour - that’s yours. A place to breathe, reflect, and address all that funny business.
For Your reflection.
I know the though of change feels scary, but if you come to think about it, all it really boils down too, is that you start, taking better care of yourself!
What Will Actually Help.
Higher standards, accountability, sustained support, and one honest day at a time.
The Motto
Recovery isn’t so much about quitting anything
Instead, its about realising - there is so much more to life.
Reach out to Antonio!
He will Sort You Out! 👊🤣
✌️ Think of him as an accountability and personal development companion.
What to expect?
To be challenged, and that’s exactly why you will grow.
What’s asked from you?
1 - No Porn
2. No Masturbation, no exception.
3: Give Semen Retention a good go.
4: Tell the Truth.
That’s the work
See it as the equivalent of breaking up from all that funny business and never going to bed with her again.
The standard
One Honest Day at a Time…
📈The Faqs
Q: How can you help me?
There is gap between who you think you are and who you actually are. That gap is where addiction lives. That gap is where shame festers. That gap is where you have your answers. That’s the gap I help you face and bridge - so funny business stops being a problem for you.
Q: Do I have a cocaine or porn problem?:
Both are a problem. But it’s a lil more complicated than that:
See it like this:
Cocaine is the permission slip to go at it for all sorts of all hours ‘‘enjoying yourself’’.
Porn is the fuel.
And because you masturbate, you can’t help yourself with all that funny business by default.
You have history…
Q: Do I need to give up masturbating to work with you?
Yes.
Non-negotiable.
Masturbating is the anchor keeping cocaine and porn in your life.
You cannot separate one without the other.
If you keep masturbating, even without porn, you will always trick yourself back into watching porn.
Before you know it, later down the line you trick yourself into thinking doing cocaine would be a good idea.
We’re not having it.
Q: What if I relapse?:
Then you tell the truth.
That’s all I ask.
One honest day at a time is the rule.
Lying is how addiction wins.
Honesty is how you win.
Feedback is data.
Relapse isn’t failure.
Being half hearted is.
Q: Is what I do on drugs ‘normal’?
What you do on drugs isn't necessary normal because its not healthy.
Common?
Very.
Hypersexuality & hyperfocus is one of the main effects from ingesting cocaine or meth. Under the influence all cards are on the table. Why you feel so much regret following a binge - questioning if your even normal cause you must be weird. Truth is, your not weird. cocaine is one of hell of a drug, that’s all.
Q: I don’t binge often. So is it still a problem?
Does it control you?
Does it change you?
Does it leave you feeling ashamed, depleted, and full of regret?
Then yes.
Frequency is irrelevant.
Impact is everything.
A fire that burns once a month can still burn your house down, right?
Q: Why can’t I stop even though I want to?
No fault of your own really, were creatures of habit. But the truth is that you haven’t, followed through with conviction, you mean to stop. Be honest.
Q: Why do you encourage semen retention? That sounds extreme.
Extreme is destroying yourself every weekend.
Extreme is disappearing into porn for hours.
Extreme is risking your life, health, and relationships.
Retention isn’t extreme.
It’s a reset.
A recalibration.
A symbolic decision to stop leaking your potential into the drain every time you’re in the mood.
This is about building self-trust & discipline where you’ve had none.
And just so we’re clear, retention isn’t about never having sex or being able to enjoy pleasure again.
It’s about taking back control of when and why you release.
It’s self-leadership, not self-punishment.
Your ejaculation when you choose to do it, will be intentional, mindful, earned.
That’s the work.
Inviting patience and presence back into your life.
Most importantly: maturity.
Q: What makes this approach different?
You’re not being “coached.”
You’re being woken up.
Most recovery talks to the addict.
I talk to the man.
Addiction is the symptom.
Your life is the context.
Your integrity is the root.
Your behaviour is the mirror.
This isn’t therapy.
It’s accountability through identity & being.
Q: Why does what you say hit so deep?
Because you’ve been lied to for years:
by the addiction,
by yourself,
and by every part of you that wants comfort instead of truth.
Men don’t need motivation.
Men need results, self-respect, and a plan to get to work.
That’s why this lands.
Q: What do I actually do to start?
Simple:
Stop lying to yourself.
Then:
Q:What’s the issue with taking cocaine?
The issue is that the volume in numbers of users are growing faster than population growth, and not showing any signs of slowing down. That’s a huge problem! Specially considering those individuals often struggle with serious health, legal, social issues, that effects their families and communities at large.
Q: How do I know if working with you will help?
A: You're ready to grow the fuck up. 🧸
To be continued….